The "flesh market"
I’m not a big clubber. I enjoy going dancing from time to time, sometimes 4 times in a week, sometimes i stay months without visiting a club (actually i’m the same RL). But one “special kind” of clubs are the gay ones, really…
I presume is because there we all are male, so we are quite… how to say it?… sexually active? horny? well, anyway, is most of the gay clubs there use to exist a high sexual tension, sometimes just too much tension…
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Don’t misunderstand me, i love SLex, but well, i presume i turned slightly selective with the time. 
Anyway, to show that “flesh market” i will tell you a real story, i’ll change the names to protect the privacy of the protagonists.
Two friends of mine are partnered in SL, both are quite attractive, sexy and cool people, i will call them Ken and Roland. Some days ago Ken was bored in SL, Roland was not online, and he decided to go to dance and have fun in a famous gay club in Second Life. After a while dancing and being in nice chat with the people there Ken started receiving IMs of three different kinds:
- Some asking him how he can be so dishonest and bad person being partnered and “in the market” (i mean “available” for SLex).
- Some others flirting and well, trying to go further.
- Some others saying: “Oh, if you are available i presume your partner is too. Can i contact him? Is he available too?”.
When Ken told me this story i was some between laughing and surprised of how rude people can be. About the first option, well, i would respond some like: “Who the fu** you think you are to judge me? Why you are presuming i’m here for SLex? Why you are supposing i’m cheating my partner? What the hell you know about my relationship?”
The second, well, is more usual and, in my opinion, acceptable, of course, with respect.
The third one was almost unbelievable, i mean, is SO RUDE!!! It has all the bad things in the first option, but is even worse someway, is like saying “You’re not good enough for me… but can i fu** your partner?”.
Ken was really upset, when he told me i started laughing becuase i saw first the funny side of it. Finally i saw the reasons for him to be sad and gave him a hug.
So, now you know a bit more of the “flesh market”, be careful, you can be the next victim.
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Don’t know whether to laugh or cry at that either; some people do seem to forget all the normal social rules when in SL, or maybe they just don’t have any social skills in RL either. It’s a shame that it also sends out the wrong message that the gay community is all centerd around sex too, which no doubt fuels some peoples negative opinions towards it.
In my opinion a lot of men are centered around sex, being gay, straight or whatever. And I presume someone is centered in that thinks everybody is too.
As gay i can say gay and straight men are exactly the same, they just have a different object of desire, but the main behavoir is similar. So imagine that guys working on a factory looking the tits of that girl in the calendar, then change the object of desire and then it will be the same, men thinking in sex.
I’m not meaning all men think exclusively in sex, but some do it for sure.
As you say, the point is the lack of respect. Some way is funny becuase all together is ridiculous, but so sad at the same time.
The gay “me so horny” crowd has absolutely zero tact when it comes to these things. The whole concept of there’s a person behind the avatar goes right out the window when someone’s on the pixelf*ck hunt. It’s like they think the avatars they’re hitting on are just computer generated characters – the type they’re usually shooting at or running over in GTA. It’s as if they lose all concept of (or don’t care about) social skills when they’re prowling.
The other night, I’m dancing at a fairly popular club when someone (an obvious “sex alt”) starts hitting on me. When I tell him I’m not interested, he demands an explanation.
Me: “Sorry, man. I’m kinda just hanging with friends and dancing here. Not looking.”
Him: “So?”
Me: “Who are you? Dick Cheney?” (trying to make a subtle joke to blow him off)
Him: “What?”
(A moment or two goes by.)
Him: “I’m horny. Let’s go somewhere. You’re hot.”
Me: “Dude, sorry. Not interested in playing. Not really into cybering. Besides, I’ve got a RL boyfriend I get it from.
”
Him: “Is he here?”
Me: “He’s not on SL.”
Him: “Cool. I’m horny and need it now. Let’s go.”
Me: *mute*
The really scary thing, however, is that both me and the RL BF have had a couple of similar experiences in RL – while we’re sitting next to each other someplace. Too bad RL doesn’t have a mute button.
That’s the point, Ketter, the total zero tact, the lack of respect.
And that may happen even in RL, what is even worse. Thanks for sharing this experience, and in my opinion you were quite nice, normally i get quite upset if i have to say “No” more than twice.