Honey, it's all right… cause, baby, i don't care

Drama… that ingredient of human relationships. Second Life, as any way of “virtual” communication (from the phone to a chat, a blog, etc) is not complete, there is not “body language”. Not only that, sometimes the text one can write is limited (like in Plurk or Twitter), or one doesn’t have a complete knowledge of the language he is using to communicate through this ways (like in my case). That means misunderstoods are easy to produce. Moreover some people takes advantage of the “anonymity” to do somethings, or to react in some ways, they are not “allowed” in RL.

Being Drama inherent to Second Life, how to face it? Well, that’s THE question. Sincerly, i’m quite antidrama. I find it boring, stressing, disturbing… I don’t like to have it around and i don’t want to cause it. Sometimes is difficult to be away of drama, for the simple reason that sometimes drama comes alone… one doesn’t need to call it, that means that sometimes having drama it doesn’t depend on your acts… so again, how to face it?

I just can say how I face it, i don’t even know if is the “right” way… but is my way, at least the way that stress me the less. When drama comes then i wonder: “Should i care?”. This is not the only question, the other questions are: “Is this drama caused by me?”, “In this case, did i acted right and is a misunderstood?”. If the answer to the first question is “No” then i should’t care, if the answer to the second question is that all is a misunderstood then i try to explain myself better, if i acted wrong by mistake (I always try to act under my ethics) then i apologize and try to explain my reasons or try to find a solution. If after trying hard to explain myself clearly in a misunderstood, or after apologizing and fixing in the case of a mistake the drama remains then i should’t care, i did my best.

Anyway, i should say now there are different levels of care, i care specially for the ones i call family or friends, for the ones i love. That means i will try harder to clear misunderstoods with people i love. Anyway there are what we can call “sidelines” about all that, some like principles about all this:

• As the song says: “I am what i am, and what i am needs no excuses”, if one doesn’t like me, sincerly, i don’t care. I try to respect everybody and i ask for the same respect, if one doesn’t like me, just go, is easy.
• If someone comes and says: “Oh, Raul, [Avatar name here] is upset with you because [issue here].” normally i don’t care, if someone needs to talk with me, he/she has many ways to do it. If that person doesn’t talk with me that can mean three things: he/she doesn’t care enough to come and talk about it, the one saying that is making BIG a really small issue, or, finally, he/she doesn’t care enough about me to come and talk about it.
• If someone comes and says: “Oh, Raul, i’m having issues with [Avatar name here] becuase he/she did [issue here].” i listen as a friend, try to understand the one explaining me the issue but i always end saying: “You should talk with [Avatar name here] about this”. All for the reasons explained before.

I’m not sure, as i said before, this is the best way, but, at least, is working.

Maybe you wonder why the name of this post, all is becuase an old song i love named “Baby I don’t care” of a group of the late 80′s-early 90′s called “Transvision Vamp“.