Disagreement

I presume weather affects the mood, well, i’m sure it affects actually. Well, right now is not only the weather affecting my mood (even i’m having a big cold right now).

Sometimes is just things that happen around you, in SL and in RL. In RL there is a lot of work stress, but anyway, this blog is not about my RL. Anyway, i’ve been a bit “missing” (as the picture shows, he he he) from some social networks the last weeks in order to fix that RL tension. But this RL stress is making me feel… how to say it… more sensitive about some stuff. Normally when i see what i consider “virtual drama” i just ignore it, but lately i’m liking to analize it.

I always try to react positively, or at least in a way i consider positive. Is some like being in a “what-the-fuck” state, an state of alert. That made me notice something (noticed it before, but just ignored it), disagreement is punished. Well, that maybe because sometimes disagreement has some aggressiveness included because it tends to question your believes… and some believes seems to be dogma, specially in some social systems, including SL.

I’m not talking about political disagreement (lately we saw a lot of that with the U.S. presidential election), that is understandable and even healthy (except if it goes too personal, of course). But in an issue into SL, like the Openspaces one, some people went into hard attacks, even personal ones. I’m not talking about me, my opinion regarding that issue was inside the “general one”, but some people thought that Linden Lab reaction (i mean the first one) was right, or just expressed a total indifference about the issue, or even considered it quite stupid. The answers to that disagreements were from the simple expression of a different point of view to the personal attack, and that last is the bad part.

Under my point of view having a different opinion about something must be understood positively, but for that it has some requirements. First, the expression of disagreement must be constructive, calling people, for example, “sheep” because they have a “mainstream” opinion is rude, aggressive, not constructive at all only causes rejection on the other side (that happened some months ago relating the “Venkman issue” in SL5B). Second, the answer should be constructive too, just ideas, opinions and not going into personal (except in the case of brake of “rule 1″ but ignoring is better than starting a fight). If some one of the parts in communication (or both) fails than all fails and is not possible to communicate.

Of course i don’t pretend to be a master on human relationships and behaviour, is just my opinion, what i think is the better way to act or react. Human behaviour is not easy, not simple… but i just try to understand it… just try.