Gay…ety?
The Hot Males, originally uploaded by ::Prad Prathivi @ Amodica::
Prad Prathivi is not only a cool, funny, deliciously sarcastic, great creator and tons of more stuff guy. He is also a friend, even i think i would ask him for money (don’t worry, Praddles, no need right now 
). Some days ago he asked me to have a picture, naked together, because we both were included in the list of the 10 Hottest Avatars in SL.
I find the picture pretty cool, is tasty, even sweet. Just two naked friends talking together. Anyway when Prad posted (in Plurk, Flickr, …) the pic was interesting to see other’s reactions.
Some were funny, about our supposed “hawtness” 
, a few of them expressed doubts about Prad’s sexual preferences.
Ok, i know most of that comments were actually jokes but anyway that made me wonder: “Is it so important?”. People seems to care a lot about other’s sexuality, “bed preferences” and stuff like that, and, ok, i admit can be funny, but at the same time makes me feel weird.
Prad is straight publically, but was “suspicious” of being gay for that image. I posted the image at left and i was not “suspicious” of being straight (maybe yes, but nobody told me). That makes me think the possibility of being gay is still considered negative and something you can be “suspicious” about.
I know people had no bad intention, i know most of them were joking (even Prad, who likes to joke about it) and there is not intention of critic in this post. I’m only trying to say that some comments made me remember there are a lot of things we should change in our society about what is considered “normality” and how is considered “difference”.
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Aye, tis true.
We’re with a lot of people, a lot of cultures with differrent habits, beliefs, principles and stuff on this planet. Each and every one has their very own idea of what is normal for their culture.
If only people would be willing to learn about the other cultures of this world more, be more open to what they don’t know. I’m sure that then, they will see that their opinions on what is normal, and what is not, has to be re-defined a bit.
Yes, very, *very* true. (Both of you are correct: Gany and Raul) Different cultures have different “standards”, habits and definitions of “normal” people. For example, Conservative Judaism and main Judaism say Homosexuality is a sin, and so, Israel was a “no-gays” country a while back as it was mostly very religious. In addition to that, none would change their standard – just like strict Judaism says “a woman has no rights” and that a woman’s father must pick her partner.
Each culture has a different ideology, and almost none are willing to look “beyond the break”. Though, that’s what makes us different. However, in today’s world, more and more cultures are “bonding” with the others. (For example, although Judaism says Homosexuality is a sin, Tel Aviv is one of the most gay-friendly cities in the world and also some parts of Israel have Christian institutes, accepting the transitioned or founder citizens which are Christians.) So, maybe this time will end very soon?
Normal is a relative term. Who decides what’s normal and what isn’t? Each and every one of us is *different* and for me that’s a beautiful thing. I embrace the differences between us, that which makes each of us unique and not-normal.
Nice post Raul.
I hate boxes. Leave your preconceptions at the log in screen please, people.
Hear, hear to all the previous comments. Truth is, there is no such thing as ‘normal’ and we should learn to accept the wonderful diversity of human sexuality along with all the other differences that make us human. No boxes, no labels, no judgements.
I totally agree with you about the obvious importance of sexual preferences for many people. Tmho it only makes sense when you are looking for a partner in the atomic world. For the rest it shouldn’t matter: accept people as they are, how they think, what they make etcetera. Someone’s sexuality is not of your business as long as you don’t want to get laid with the person, is it?
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Let’s love people for their personality, please.(Don’t know if you’ve read my recent post about gender, which is related with this topic? -sorry for shamelessly advertising
Btw, I have to admit that in my eyes your poses in Prad’s picture suggest more than friendship indeed, but that’s my personal opinion
I think sexual preference IS important as far as friendships go, because it is still barely acceptable for straight, partnered people to have friends of the opposite sex, especially if they’re also straight. I read endless letters about jealous spouses in the advice columns, and in SL, I’m usually relieved to find out that a male friend is gay, because I know I won’t have to deal with a suspicious girlfriend. I prefer bi people in general, because they seem more openminded about almost everything in life.
I understand exactly what you mean about normality. It’s all your point of view really…your feelings, the way you were raised…as my dad and brother are gay, mom and i are straight, I thought nothing of the pic, except for the hawtness of it, of course. Great post…insightful. Funny that when I think gay, I think family.
/me shakes head at Silverdrake’s comment.
And don’t get me wrong: it tells more about the narrow mindedness of the people surrounding you than about you. In both SL and FL my best friends happen to be straight men, where I am a straight woman. And in both lives my spouse doesn’t mind about it. And I think that’s good: they are friendships, and even though they are very close and I may even flirt, they are not romantic or sexual relationships I have with them!
(sorry for spamming your blog Raul, but I just couldn’t resist responding on this)
This is a place where everybody can express his thoughts (while respecting other’s) the times you need or want, so don’t worry about spamming.
Normality is what we make it.
I respect everyone’s sexual orientation (not preferences) and doesn’t make any difference to me. Gender has lots of interesting issues to be discussed but I don’t want to get into that.
<3 Raul
mmmm..well..i just have to say that..fortunetly..you and Prad,are not one of this human beings that creates moved by VIP-reactions..popularity..or stuff like that…otherwise i would rly hate this picture..and others i saw in my short life as an virtual-art viewer…is sad how some people just look “over” the pic,like a bird flying fast…and not “get inside”..but as i always said to the poeple i met,that were interested in virtual art,and that for many reasons..they refused to “try” just beacuse they thought they werent ” good enougth”…just express urself,push out all that..good or bad…and share..the rest..is never up to you..
by the way..i just can see..tenderness in this picture..
big hugs
Sura
It is still taboo in many places…homosexuality…which is ridiculous to me…when the scale of sexuality is so vaste..each of us having our own take on what turns us on or off…
I personally wish we would all be as interested in other topics…like the vast amount of starving children in the world…then worry about who’s sleeping with whom.
I never assume who does what…for that matter who is what. It’s the value of what is on the inside that matters most to me.
Great picture btw…i totally missed this on Prad’s stream.
Oh, Stephen! You are the first one on commenting directly on my new blog!!! Thanks!!!
About the theme of the post, you are right, possibly is just some people gives too much importance to that kind of private details.